Yesterday, I talked about some of women’s most commonly held sexual fantasies, including force fantasies, being a bad girl, group sex (the fantasy at the heart of my 9/30 release, Just Gotta Say), exhibitionism, and voyeurism. While these often rank among the top-five of women’s sexual fantasies, there are quite a few other arousing scenarios women frequently mention in surveys. These are too damn delicious not to explore in a little more details. So…
Stranger. Dangerous in so many ways in real life, the fantasy of picking up a complete stranger and having a wild night of sex with him is pretty consistently toward the top of women’s sexual fantasy lists. The stranger fantasy opens up a world where no-holds-barred, no-strings-attached, no-emotional-baggage sex exists, and the entire encounter can just be about chasing down mind-blowing sexual release. It’s hard to argue with that one.
Domination. Many women dream of using and controlling a man for her complete and total pleasure. In this fantasy, the woman might demand a man’s silence. or require that he can’t touch her. She might order him to his knees and command he pleasure her with his mouth. This one appeals to many women because it allows them the free and full expression of their sexual needs and desires. It allows them to confidently take what they want—not just ask or hope their partner will know to give it to them. Some women take their fantasizing about stepping into the traditional male role a step further and include strap-on play as part of the fun—penetration is the ultimate form of domination, after all.
Submission. In this top fantasy, a woman dreams of turning over total control to the man. He makes all decisions, commands her compliance, gives or withholds pleasure at his discretion, and uses her for his own satisfaction. Like the force fantasy, submission is appealing because a woman is relieved of the control and decision-making that characterizes so much of her daily life. Unlike the force fantasy, however, the submission fantasy is consensual—a woman voluntarily gives over her control.
Role-Playing. Also related to the Bad Girl fantasy I discussed yesterday, this fantasy is about you and/or your partner adopting a new persona. In this way, it can also be a form of the stranger fantasy, depending on just how detailed the role playing is. Popular role plays include daddy-daughter, teacher-student, officer-lawbreaker, employer-employee, and prostitute-john. Often common in role-playing fantasies is a power differential that makes the liaison dangerous, illicit and inappropriate.
This list is, of course, by no means complete. But it is interesting and informative that the same fantasies tend to appear over and over in survey results about women’s sexual fantasies. Clearly, there are some things that turn many, many of us on, even if we would never try them in real life. So, what do you think? Are you surprised by any on yesterday’s and today’s list? Feel I miss something totally fantastic? Share your thoughts on fantasies, and come on back tomorrow when I discuss what fantasies rev men up…
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR: A multi-published author of paranormal, contemporary and erotic romance, Laura Kaye’s hot, heartfelt stories are all about the universal desire for a place to belong. Laura is the author of the bestselling contemporary romance Hearts in Darkness and the bestselling and award-nominated paranormal romance Forever Freed. Just Gotta Say is Laura’s third published book, and her fourth, North of Need (Book 1 in the Hearts of the Anemoi Series) releases on November 1. Laura lives in Maryland with her husband, two daughters, and cute-but-bad dog, and appreciates her view of the Chesapeake Bay every day.
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