So, all week I’ve been chatting about women’s sexual fantasies. Makes sense, since I’m celebrating the release of my debut erotic romance (TOMORROW!) called Just Gotta Say, which features a woman getting to act out her most secret, forbidden fantasy. Well, fair’s fair, I say, so today we’re turning the tables and getting into men’s most private thoughts. There’s overlap to be sure, but men’s sexual fantasies also differ from women’s in some interesting ways. So, based on an analysis of multiple survey results on male sexual fantasies, here’s what gets men all revved up:
Male-male. Among many heterosexual men, the idea of any sexual or sensual activity is illicit, and that makes it dark, dangerous, and arousing, though it doesn’t mean they’re gay or even bi-.
Domination. Men fantasize about being totally let out of the box, completely free to exercise their every male desire. They want to be rough and aggressive and take what they want to gain their pleasure. They want to be in control, and they’re eager to unleash their inner caveman to do it.
Bondage. Connected to men’s domination fantasies, they get off on the idea of tying a woman up. For real. Not just easily removed silk scarves that offer the illusion of bondage, but men get off on the idea of physically restraining women using handcuffs, rope, or other bondage devices.
Anal Sex. You knew this had to be on here somewhere, didn’t you? Talk about illicit, and dirty, and maybe even a bit degrading. Men fantasize about penetrating a woman’s body, everywhere. And that makes anal sex a top sexual fantasy for most men.
Masturbation. Men want to jerk off in front of you, and they want you to jerk them off. Pretty much, they dream of any and all handjob action—add a little in-public danger to ramp up the arousal even further.
Voyeurism and Exhibitionism. Men are visually stimulated, so the idea of watching and being watched turns them on. The thought of other men watching you pleasure him, but not getting to touch you in return, is a big ego-builder. They also like women’s exhibitionism, and are all too happy to watch you masturbate or strip for them. They’re all about the eye candy.
Group Sex. Of a very particular kind, and I know you know what I’m talking about. A top male fantasy is having sex with two women. The thought of being able to please two women in bed speaks to the core of the male sexual ego, making it one of the most commonly held male sexual fantasies.
Oral Sex. This is one men can’t stop thinking about. And, like handjobs, is especially nice because it can be performed in lots of risky places. While driving? While sitting at a desk? In a dark alley? On a dancefloor? Is it getting hot in here? And, I’m sure you won’t be surprised that oral sex including deep throat is an especial turn-on for men.
So, did I miss a male sexual fantasy your guy particularly enjoys? Stop back by tomorrow for the conclusion of my Whipped Cream Spotlight!
Thanks for reading,
ABOUT THE AUTHOR: A multi-published author of paranormal, contemporary and erotic romance, Laura Kaye’s hot, heartfelt stories are all about the universal desire for a place to belong. Laura is the author of the bestselling contemporary romance Hearts in Darkness and the bestselling and award-nominated paranormal romance Forever Freed. Just Gotta Say is Laura’s third published book, and her fourth, North of Need (Book 1 in the Hearts of the Anemoi Series) releases on November 1. Laura lives in Maryland with her husband, two daughters, and cute-but-bad dog, and appreciates her view of the Chesapeake Bay every day.
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