First, a small SQUEE!
Happy Release Day to Just Gotta Say!
Many people lump erotic romance and erotic fiction in with pornography. To me, there’s a difference. Erotic romance is primarily romantic storytelling that combines prominent romantic emotional connection with central-to-plot erotic elements. Erotica also tells a story where sex and eroticism are the primary focus, though romantic elements and happy endings aren’t required. I would argue most erotica is written to arouse women, while most pornography is written or filmed to arouse men. To me, pornography cares little about relationships or storytelling, which is why the filmed versions usually lack dialogue and the written versions often do little to develop characters. So, while all three have as a fundamental purpose arousing the reader or viewer, they’re quite different in terms of emotional components and storytelling function.
Still, many people conflate them and don’t acknowledge a difference. This is often why, when you announce you’re an author of erotic romance, some folks look at you with surprise, shock, disapproval, or like you’ve just admitted some deep, dark, deviant behavior. All of which begs the question: why do I write in this genre?
The first reason I write erotic romance is because, frankly, I’m good at it and I enjoy it! When I write, I see the scenes in my head as if they were a 3-D set or a movie. I can move around the people and objects in my head and see how people are positioned, where hands are placed, and how the characters’ perspective on the setting differs from their positions. It makes blocking and writing physical actions easier for me, which makes writing sex scenes fun.
The second reason I write erotic romance is because sex and sensual, erotic situations are often moments of heightened tension and emotionality. They’re full of potential as turning points in relationships or identity. And, as a writer, that’s exciting. It’s cool to put your characters in these situations, which, in erotic romance, often push their boundaries and comfort zones, and see how they react. It often results in not only some damn hot scenes, but also some super compelling character development. And, as a writer of character-driven fiction, that’s writing gold for me.
I also write erotic romance because sexy, sensual, erotic scenes represent a key opportunity to take your readers for a ride outside their potential comfort zones. If a writer can get a reader to have sympathy for and identify with characters engaging in sexual activities a reader might never try themselves, or of which they might even disapprove, then you’ve done your job. And, seeing if you can craft the words, the motivations, the character rationales that will nab that readers’ buy-in to the story is a great challenge and, when successful, a moment of real achievement.
Since I’ve been talking about sexual fantasies all week, it’s also fair to add that writing erotic romance is fun and satisfying because it lets me as the writer and you as the reader engage in the many sexual fantasies floating around in our heads and making up our happiest daydreams. It gives all of us yet another safe, private, guilt-free way to indulge in those naughty-but-oh-so-good imaginings, not to mention helping us come up with some new fantasies, too.
I love the idea that my words, however sexy and erotic they may or may not be, take my readers on a journey, and that those same readers agree to come along for the ride. The thought that someone might find a few hours of pleasure or escape at my hand is a wonderful source of inspiration and motivation for me, and a true honor.
For the writers visiting, why do you write erotic romance. For the readers here, why do you enjoy reading it?
A huge thanks to Whipped Cream for hosting me all week, and to everyone who turned out to read and comment! I’ve had great fun!
Thanks for reading,
ABOUT THE AUTHOR: A multi-published author of paranormal, contemporary and erotic romance, Laura Kaye’s hot, heartfelt stories are all about the universal desire for a place to belong. Laura is the author of the bestselling contemporary romance Hearts in Darkness and the bestselling and award-nominated paranormal romance Forever Freed. Just Gotta Say is Laura’s third published book, and her fourth, North of Need (Book 1 in the Hearts of the Anemoi Series) releases on November 1. Laura lives in Maryland with her husband, two daughters, and cute-but-bad dog, and appreciates her view of the Chesapeake Bay every day.
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