Other good marriage advice from Why Men Love Bitches is about nagging. Nagging reminds him of his mother. (See yesterday’s post!) According to Argov, motherly = emasculated. Nagging doesn’t give him anything to think about, to worry about, to wonder if he’s losing you. He just tunes it out and doesn’t listen to it. Don’t nag.
Men still need to feel needed – and appreciated – for their masculinity. They don’t want to feel women need them for basic, common sense things, everyday life things, or most importantly they don’t want to feel a woman needs him to assure her of her own self-worth (because you already know how valuable you are, right?).
I remember a time at a party where I saw a woman telling her husband how stupid he was because of something he’d said or done (I can’t even remember what it was). I could see how embarrassed and demoralized he was in front of his friends. Keep that stuff private. (I actually think this applies to men and women.) In public, let him have the power position. Apparently men don’t mind the woman being in charge at home – as long as no one else knows about it. Let him keep his ego.