Why I Write Erotica Instead of Romance
That's simple. Sexual liberation.
Men have enjoyed it for years, women not so much. I happen to disagree with the assumption that men are the only ones really interested in sex. It's simply not true. Women just want their sex with emotion. For many, including myself, the two can't be separated. I still want the hearts and chocolates part of the romance; I just want to rip the hero's shirt off afterwards.
I imagine many women shy away from erotica in favor of romance because it's still somewhere in the back of their minds that good girls don't think about things like that. Well, I do and I'm not ashamed of it. I do think we're slowing overcoming this programming, though. Maybe in the next twenty years it will become a nonissue. For now I hope reading 'dirty books' like I write will help someone out there see that their sexuality is not a bad thing, that they have a right to want certain things.
Besides, erotic stories are a safe way to explore new fantasies. Having a hard time telling your significant other you want to try something kinky? Say 'honey I read about such and such in this book and it sounded really hot.' Read a passage to him and see what he thinks.
And there are some things that are better as fantasies. Maybe sadomasochism is too out there for you but reading about it is a big turnon. There are erotic stories out there for just about every fantasy, now. Why not let your imagination run wild? There's no harm in a fantasy, right?